Think Before You Post!

Think Before You Post!

There are many lessons that I have learned through our journey to finally have our rainbow twins. It was a long, hard road. Never in a million years did we think this was going to be our story. It is true that you really cannot plan your life. I had my life planned out, but after 37 years, I can say it didn’t turn out the way I planned it. My heart aches for those who are having trouble trying to conceive, have had miscarriages, stillborns, or infant losses. I wish we weren’t a part of this horrible club, but we are.

With April Fool’s Day approaching, I encourage everyone that has not been through these horrific experiences to THINK BEFORE YOU POST! What may seem like a harmless joke to post that you are pregnant, when in fact you are not, there is someone on your feed who feels very differently. In all honesty, prior to our own troubles starting a family I would never have thought twice about it and kept scrolling. Now, when I see these posts, it feels like a punch in the stomach.

It is not a joke to a couple who is having trouble conceiving after months or years of going through the motions. It is not a joke to a mother who had to be in the hospital for 17 days trying to prolong a very early delivery in hopes of getting her daughter to 24 weeks gestational. The mother who did everything in her power to give her daughter a fighting chance and then was told to just stop fighting. Then that mother had to hold her 13.5 ounce, stillborn child. All this couple has is a few things from the hospital, a plaque in her memory, a memorial garden, and her ashes. This woman was also told that she could no longer carry a child and had to find a different way to have children earthside. That’s when the surrogacy journey began. This woman is me and my experience is not a joke. 

There are countless stories of couples, some that you may know personally, who are suffering and struggling in silence. Not everyone is comfortable sharing their experiences and partly because the world makes us feel like we cannot and should not talk about it. 

So on April 1st, we kindly ask that you please don’t make pregnancy an April Fool’s joke. 

I am 1 in 8.

I am 1 in 4.

It Takes a Herd is here to bring awareness to infertility, pregnancy and infant loss, and surrogacy. To learn how you can help or to receive support, please visit our website or follow us on Facebook. 

Thanks for being part of the herd.